There are many celebrities that we know who use their powers to spread good amongst people. This can be through awareness of certain facts, humanitarian work, and many more things. Being people that are popular amongst most of the world population, it is easy to spread the word far and wide. Some of these celebrities include Angelina Jolie, Jackie Chan, Shakira, George Clooney and Bono.
The first thing that you’ll notice as you see those names is that they are all based towards humanitarian projects with the aim of bettering the lives of those that are less fortunate. They are giving back to the community in the best way that they know how. There are other celebrities that can give back to the community in other ways, and this includes Stephen Collins. The experience that he went through slightly over 20 years ago, living with the guilty burden and trying to find a solution, is something that other people should also ape.
Stephen Collins is known for his role in the popular WB show, 7th Heaven, where he played a moral minister and father to a large family. He admitted to inappropriate sexual encounters with minors, the last one having happened over 20 years ago. Since the incidences occurred, he sought therapy to find out why he did it and how he could stop it from happening again. When I think about all the personal anguish that he has gone through over those twenty years as he tried to make things right, I believe that he deserves our forgiveness.
It was not like he was the one that made the information go public. He and his ex-wife had been attending therapy sessions to salvage their marriage. During one of the sessions, he decided to open up about his past without knowing that she had secretly brought in a recorder and was taping the whole thing. She released the tape to TMZ and everything suddenly burst into the light.
Collins never tried to make good of his past due to public pressure because long before that, he was already trying to make things right. Here is what he had to say to Katie Couric during an interview, “I had dealt with them [the sexual incidents] very, very strongly and committedly in my private life. I think I’m a human being with flaws and I’ve done everything I can to address them.”
He also said, “I deeply regret the mistakes I’ve made and any pain I caused these three women. I admit to, apologize for, and take responsibility for what I did.”
With such a sincere effort to address his shortcomings and having lived with it for twenty years, it is only right that we have his back and support him through the process. He lived a clean life for more than 20 years after the incidences, trying to make things right, which included not apologizing to his victims, since that would have opened up old wounds for them. He worked with at least three of the twelve steps of recovery as mentioned below:
- (step 5) Admitted to God, to himself, and to another human being the exact nature of his wrongs.
- (step 8) Made a list of all persons he harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- (step 9) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
We are not sure if the therapy addressed the reasons behind his behavior in the first place. Chances are that he himself was probably the victim of sexual assault in his childhood. These types of sexual behaviors don’t arise out of nowhere, something had to trigger them, something from his childhood. Chances are he himself was probably a victim too.
This is a message worth passing on to other people because Stephen Collins showed the world that when you make a mistake, you should acknowledge the mistake and try to find solutions as well as seek help where need be.